How to End Your Toxic Relationship With Sugar

Parting is such sweet sorrow, but it’s time to show that sweet thing the door

Jim Farina


Photo by Priscilla Du Preez 🇨🇦 on Unsplash

It took me some time to forgive myself or forgive my behavior. Isn’t that today’s new mantra? Self-forgiveness, being gentle with ourselves? Oh, and that other one — exercising regular gratitude.

I sure was grateful for that chocolate-covered donut I devoured last night. At least I felt gratitude for about thirty seconds before that feeling instantly became abject shame. It’s always the same pattern. Justification. Momentary satisfaction. Shame.

I otherwise keep a pretty healthy lifestyle. I’m not what you would consider overweight. And I’m generally very disciplined regarding abstaining from sugary treats. If anything, my weakness is with salty snacks. I try to model a healthy lifestyle for my family as much as possible.

And there lies my justification — I rarely indulge myself with sweets. This is an accomplishment in my house, as my wife likes to bake, and we have two daughters who love sweet treats.

There’s always candy, chocolate, cookies, and muffins around. So, in my head, I’m entitled to something unhealthy and indulgent now and then. Refusing the baked goods that my wife takes time and care to make is inconsiderate and ungracious.